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Tips on How to Become your Best Without the Stress:
In Be Your Best Without the Stress, Katrina Radke, MFT, provides readers with some fundamental, yet insightful, tips on how to become your best without stress:
- Go to your happy place – Train yourself to feel good about yourself on a regular basis because you’ll become more optimistic, have higher confidence and cope with stress better.
- Ask yourself, “What do (I) want?” – Focus on what makes you feel happy. By allowing yourself to feel happy now, you open yourself up to the very things you don’t have yet. By changing your internal world, you will change your external world.
- Change your outside to change your inside – When you smile, you get out of your head and move into your heart. You change your physiology, which alters your emotions.
- Appreciation and joy – In order to experience joy regularly you must first have a willingness to stop suffering and to feel good.
- Self-acceptance – Take it easy and not demand perfection.
- Setbacks and obstacles – Don’t let your setbacks define you. Know that you are still great even if you cannot do what you used to do.
- Self-affirmations – One way to help you feel worth is to tell yourself that you are. How you talk to yourself and what you believe you are affects how you play out your life.
- Brag book – Write at last one thing from your day that makes you feel good about yourself.
- Magnificence – Focus on your magnificence by forgiving your past mistakes; writing down ten things you love to do then do one of them today; tell that judgmental voice that’s inside that you no longer need it to beat you up.
- Love yourself and do what you love – Love is right here. We do not need to seek it elsewhere. We can love everything about ourselves. When we do not love or accept ourselves, we tend to attract people who prove our beliefs that are not worthy or capable of love.
- Listen to your body – Pay attention, our body tells us everything we need to know.
- Honor your feelings - It is okay to be upset, to feel embarrassed, ashamed, mad, or depressed. When these feelings come up, it is a sign that something is bothering you. Learning to listen to our truth can be challenging, as we might worry about our own or others’ judgment. As we listen, we will become aware of where these beliefs came from in the first place.
- Getting healthy – Learn the value of rest, and learn to feel better physically and emotionally.
- Set boundaries – Learn to say “no” and set healthy boundaries around our physical or emotional space.
- Communication – Know how you feel and what you need then express it.
- Complete unfinished business – Complete unfinished business by bringing past events back up into the present and relive and resolve them.
- Reactions to change – As you make changes you may find that people aren’t willing to support you. Realize that you may have to separate yourself from him/her.
- Forgiveness and letting go – When you determine that it’s time to end an existing relationship have compassion and thank these people for being in your life. Know that it’s ok if they do not like the new you. This is a reflection of them, not you.
- Learning from relationships – Our relationships are our best gurus-mirrors that reflect who we really are. When we heal and grow, we thrive within our relationships.
- Authority figures - We do not need to assume that anyone, regardless of their position or role, is always right. Wise authority figures will encourage us to speak up and be ourselves, even if it pushes their buttons.
- Moving forward – Going through ups and downs, not only within ourselves, but also in our relationships, helps us build a stronger love and bond with one another.
- Distractions – Don’t let distractions thwart your energy and focus.
- Train your focus – Keep focused in the present, accept and love yourself.
- Getting unstuck – Be aware of what is causing you to feel stuck. Once you understand the problem you can fix it.
- Do something that makes you feel alive – Do something you have always wanted to do, something you thought you couldn’t or were told you shouldn’t. Focus on being present.
- Keep it simple – Try to become detached from your emotions. Tell yourself that you do not need to listen to anything negative.
- Learn what motivates you – Let go of other people’s expectations and focus on your deepest truest desires.
- Act as if – Set the intention of what you want and assume this desire has already been fulfilled.
- Visualization – Imagine all possible scenarios in a performance and you will be better prepared to handle them.
- Being on autopilot – Get out of your own way and let your body take over, it knows what to do.
- Face your fears (and then transcend them) – Recognize the worst things that can happen and then let them go.
By listening to your inner voice, personal needs and wishes, Radke believes that you will get the best out of yourself and lead a more balanced and peaceful life.
For more information, visit www.katrinaradke.com